I decided to ask this time for some tips on how to complete those things in life that are so hard to stick to. Whatever that is in your life, be it dieting, sticking to an exercise plan.....or whatever. All the things we know we should do for ourselves and even try to, but that are so hard to stick to.
This month I am going to ask the cards, for all of us who have had this experience (and who hasn't?), for some tips and advice that could make it easier and help us to stick to it and see it through. I thought of this topic right now because as usual, I am having trouble sticking to my diet lately. LOL
But it can also apply to anything you are having trouble with sticking to.
This deck is the Pearls of Wisdom Tarot, by Roxi Sim and Caeli Fullbrite. It has always been and always will be a very special deck to me as it was given to me by a dear friend who will always be a part of my heart. Just my taste in a deck too, bright pretty colours and a lot of depth to it.
So I asked the deck for advice that would make it easier to stick to those things we want to do and accomplish but have so much trouble sticking to.
Here is what came up:
Card 1:The Fool (reversed)
This is a nice, bright, encouraging place to start this reading.
And it is a very strong card here. It's a Major Arcana card, saying that we can view each of these times when we are finding it hard to stick to something as learning lessons. If we pay attention they each have some important lessons that they can teach us about ourselves and life. They are meant to teach us these lessons. That is why they come up, because we have not yet learnt them. It might even be a good idea to stop when you see this happening and ask yourself what can you learn from the experience that will help you in your life.
This is also a reversed card, which emphasizes the importance of it all, saying that if we look there are some very important life lessons we can learn at this time. So all this shows a positive side to it.
The Fool is really a beautiful little card. In essence it asks to just let go of all else and have faith in life. The Fool is about the kind of faith that a young child has in life. That belief that if they want to and try they can be and do anything they want to in their lives. That true belief in that happily after ending. Seeing it as the norm, expecting it and believing that that is truly how life works. And that all really does work out for the best in the end.
This card says that if you want to succeed, this is the attitude to go in with and to hold onto Try to make this way of thinking your goal, your norm. BELIEVE that you can be and do anything at all that you want "when you grow up". And if fact this is just what this is. Each experience will teach us just what you need to know to learn what we need to if we pay attention, just as a child learns that it needs to in school.
When The Fool comes up in a reading it tells you to have that pure faith and trust in life, because it is merited. You do have what it takes to succeed, or this card would not come up. The more strongly you allow yourself to believe it, the easier you will make things for yourself.
The image shows the person in the boat (representing us) with her eyes closed. Pretty much floating down the river without a paddle. This says that at those times when we want to give up, it is because we have our eyes closed to (and cannot see) the fact that we actually do have all that we need to complete our goal, right there inside us.
And also maybe because at those times we are focusing on the wrong things and turning our backs on what is most important. Maybe we tell ourselves that a storm is coming because we sense there may be some choppy waves beneath us, things start to feel hard. When in reality the sun is shining brightly behind us and a rainbow is shining, showing that we can succeed. This pretty well says it is best to try to focus on positive thoughts than on the negative at these times.
Card 2: Queen of Cups (reversed)
This is a Cups card, about our feelings. And of course so much on this issue can be related to that. When we feel the desire to let go and give up, that is of course a feeling. And that feeling is likely a reaction to other feelings we have been having.
A reversed Queen, for me, generally says that we will be guided and/or it talks about fate. Either way, it is saying here that if you make up your mind to do something, your life will work with you to help you achieve it. You are not all alone in that sense. This card is saying that if you look around you as you are working on something you will see some signs and guidance that will help you on your path.
And feeling that we do have this help and do not have to do it all on our own, can feel....well...helpful. The card image is asking you here if you feel tempted to give up to remember that you live in a universe of love. You are loved and if you want to complete something life wants to help you. All the red roses in the image reflect that thought.
And all the spreading ripples in the water are a reminder that one thought or feeling spreads out to other similar ones which lead to others. And that in reality, it is just as easy to think a positive thought that will lead to feelings that make things easier for you, as it is to think a negative one that makes things feel harder. It is just as easy to think the positive thought and it too will spread and make things easier if you do. Purposely look for something positive at these times and focus on it and see what it leads to. It will lead to the truth. That is the advice of this card.
Card 3: 10 of Swords
This card made me laugh because the image felt so perfect here. The 10 of Swords is really all about that one thought of kind of thought that you just can't get out of your mind. It just keeps coming back like a song you can't get out of your head. As soon as you have a moment to think, there it is again. That is what this card is talking about. And it can certainly apply to what we are talking about in this question. ....whatever thought it is that tries to make you want to give up on working on that goal.
Whatever that is for you, it's likely different thoughts for each of us, but this card is about that. The image shows it almost like a tornado. It may feel powerful or convincing, but in reality, the image is saying here that it prevents you from seeing clearly or seeing things from another viewpoint. This card is saying that when this happens we get so wrapped up in it that it becomes hard to see things in any other way. In that state of mind we are, in a sense, asleep to any other possibilities or realities than to that one that is going round and round in our minds.
And as we then cannot see things from another angle to make a comparison, then we cannot really be sure that that thought is true or accurate.
This is basically saying, that if you get that one thought that keeps coming back repeatedly, don't just trust in it blindly. Try to see things in a number of other ways. And if you can't, then give yourself a rest and don't make any decisions until you can once again. Because in life there is never only one option. Very very few things are all black and white. There are always choices. Try not to choose until you can see a number of them clearly. Keep asking yourself, "What else could I do (that would be helpful here) instead?" until you can see lots of options. Don't be afraid to try to break out of the box and see things in different ways.
Card 4: Page of Swords
This is a Swords thought, about our thoughts and the way that we think. And it's also a Page. Pages are about facing something new unlike anything you ever really have before. In this case, the card is advising you to try to think in new and different ways that the way you traditionally do when you feel the urge to give up. Challenge yourself to find new ways. Make a game out of it. See how many different ways you can come up with see the exact same situation. Pull yourself out of it and imagine it was happening to a complete stranger. What advice would you then give to that person.
This card is all about finding new ways to think about the situation at these times. The first card of this reading tells you that you do have all you need to complete your goals inside you. Our thoughts become feelings that make us want to stick to it or not. Logically then, if the thoughts you are thinking are not leading you to where you want to go, try to find new ways to think about it. This card says experimenting with this should really be helpful.
You know the old saying about how if you always do what you have always done, then you will always get what you've always gotten. This message takes it one step further. And it says that if you keep thinking about it in the same way that you always have, then those same thoughts will always take you to the same place.
The image looks to me like one of realizing and recognizing your true inner strength, by pulling that sword from the stone. And all of life is shining rainbows of promise on you as you do so. And of course the sword again represents your thoughts. The message of this card all goes back to that. It says that your thoughts can make you strong enough even to pull a sword from stone if you choose the right ones. It's about experimenting and finding the right ones that give you that power. And holding onto them, using them as a well-valued tool to create what you want.
Card 5: flipped 4 of Cups
This card and the next came up as flipped cards (cards that "flipped" out of the deck during shuffling. Flipped cards are important in that they contain a deep kind of message that can be seen more clearly if you take the time to stop and think about it.
This card is the 4 of Cups. Cups again are about our feelings. And the 4's are about the totality of a thing and about completion. It's about trying to see the big picture. To understand something in all of its aspects. Here about understanding our feelings in depth, all the feelings surrounding the issue of completing our goal.
Right now, the message here is that feelings are just feelings. They do not represent the totality of the situation. The reality of a situation is complex and cannot be represented just by one feeling. This is why in some life situations we feel conflicting emotions. We can feel happy and sad at the same time. The desire to move on at the same time as the desire to avoid change. But the point here is that a feeling does not cannot ever represent the totality of a situation.
That means that if you FEEL you want to give up or cannot succeed, there are only feelings. They are not accurate representations of the totality of the reality of the situation. You can feel inside that you cannot complete what you set up. But just feeling it does not mean that feeling is truth. You can feel you cannot see it to completion and succeed. But the feeling is only a feeling and does not mean that it is true. (When this reading has already told you that you have inside you all that you ever really need to succeed).
The gist of this message is to not treat feelings as if they were Truth. No feelings can accurately represent the complexity that is any situation. And some feelings reflect something untrue. The images just says to try and give yourself a little vacation from any feelings that are overly negative. Put them aside for the while and trust in the future. And when you look at the future imagine it positively. See the Cups as full and over-flowing, not half-full.
Last card of this reading: the Knight of Swords. Swords, again about your thoughts and way of thinking. And Knights, for me, are about empathy. About that feeling of oneness with others, and about taking the time to really imagine what it would be like to be someone else.
This card tells you to think about your connection to others. Imagine what it would be like to be in their place, living their lives, to be them.
This card asks you to look around you. To think about what it would be like to be the others you see around you. To look and see who is working on similar goals as you are. Who is succeeding at those goals and acing them and who is ready to give up.
Try to imagine you were them. What does that person who is doing well this his goals have that the other person does not? What attitude, what beliefs, what feelings, what thoughts, what life background? Talk to these people about it too if you can.
Imagine inside you what it would be like to feel as the people who are succeeding feel and have their beliefs. Then how it would be to have the feelings and beliefs that the other group has. Which feels better, you can already see the consequences of each.
The image says to me to also look inside yourself for signs of things that have made you balk at thinking and feeling what those are succeeding are thinking and feeling. See where they come from. And find a way of thinking that feels more and more comfortable while destroying those seeming boundaries for you.